So remind me again why I just signed myself up again for another 6 months of wondering "what's wrong with me" torture? I think I'm a pretty great catch. I am not desperate to get married, have kids, not-be-alone ... I'm pretty content with my life. It would just be nice to have someone with whom I could share my Life Experiences.
What is so frustrating is that I feel like their are guys out there who would be a great match for me, but they are missing out on the opportunity to get to meet me - all because of something that's missing in my profile. I can't figure out what that missing component is for the life of me. What "hook" do I need to use? This is how I feel on a good day. On a not-so-good day it quickly turns into "what's wrong with *me*?", "am I not pretty enough?", "am I boring?", "am I too fat?" .... you get the idea.
Luckily - most days are good days and I just feel sorry for the guys that are missing out. I mean we might meet and realize that we would never work in a romantic relationship, but would be great friends. Or we might meet and realize "oh hell no" - it simply wasn't meant to be. But isn't that the whole point of dating? The more people you meet IN PERSON the better your chances are of finding the one that is "just right" for you. You also learn the personality traits and characteristics on which you simply will not compromise.
You have to engage and interact and meet people OFFline in order to know what a real relationship will look like. As much as I try to make my profile very candid, sincere and true to who I am - until you meet me in person you can't add in that last factor ... chemistry. It's real and it matters. Profiles are great ... but in person is better.
I just need to get someone to take the chance to meet me ... in person.
Well - I've got 6 months to try. Wish me luck!
Boy, do I hear you on this one. But you have a GREAT attitude, Jilly, and the good thing is that since you are doing so well on your own, with or without a significant other, you will still have YOU- and that's a lot :)
ReplyDeleteThanks Wendy-lady! I do a pretty good job of staying positive, but there are days ...
DeleteMaybe I should post my profile and get some feedback! :D
And hang in there yourself. Just have to believe that things will work out as they are meant to. For me - if that means I stay single, then so be it. Makes traveling and "going and doing" a heck of lot easier (sometimes).
Actually posting your profile and getting feedback is a good idea. Of course, we your friends are bias and think you are great as you are, but maybe we might find that your profile does not convey that. Or maybe it does and men are just stupid. But, without even knowing what your profile says I'm going to hazard a guess at the usual culprit: age. Men tend to make their age range something stupid like, 18 to 34, even though they are fast approaching 50. While women tend to make their age ranges within 10 years junior or senior of their own. So with that in mind, unless you lie about your age, you are unlikely to show up in the profiles of the men you would most likely be attracted to and vice versa.
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